Admit it. This is the post you’ve been impatiently waiting for. 😉 We’re not traditional in our relationship, so you know we’re kinky in the bedroom. Whips, chains, handcuffs. Don’t forget the orgies. 😜
Oh, yeah. How sexy is she? Can’t you just bite her neck? Nibble gently, then trail sweet kisses lower… and lower… and… yum…
Wait.
Stop the daydreaming and let’s get that misconception out of the way early. Because if it really was all about sex, we would be having a lot more fun, let me tell you!
Just ask Catie. This was supposed to have been a summer fling. Next thing she knows, she’s attending school events, spending weekends with the “in-laws”, cleaning cat puke, dealing with teenage girl drama, and asking herself, “What happened to my life…”
She blames AOL Instant Messenger. (She’ll explain more about that on another blog.)
Don’t get me wrong, the sex is nice. Those two are quite inventive and entertaining. But considering Paul works second shift, we rarely see him. He leaves at 2:30ish and doesn’t come home until way after midnight, when the rest of us are fast asleep. And when the weekends come, we’re usually busy. If it’s not grocery shopping or laundry, then it’s some project, like: The Wall.
The key word in this lifestyle is Family. Sure, it’s a little weird and wonky, but it suits us just fine.
So, if it’s not all about the sex, then why? Why do I “share” my husband with another woman? Well, for one, Paul isn’t my property. I don’t tell him he can’t do something and he doesn’t do it to me, either.
Wait. I just lied. Because I’ve told him he can’t have a house with a five car garage. I mean, come on. You can’t have a garage that’s bigger than the house. Can you?
Anyway… We’re more of a “let’s compromise” couple, rather than pulling apart because we can’t get our way. That doesn’t mean we’re in a “free for all.”
No, we are not in an “open” relationship. A lot of folks out there have sex with a bunch of people with no relationships. If that’s your cup of tea, by all means, enjoy it. But that’s not how we work. The three of us are in a committed relationship; it’s just a slightly bigger circle than the norm.
As to why… For me, the list is a mile long. First, I love them. (Remember that post about how much love a heart can hold? Yeah, it’s a different kind of love, but it’s still there.) Then there’s the fact that the three of us work well together. The group has strengths in different areas, and when we put them together, things just work better. At least, it does for me.
Paul and I are very passionate people. When things are good, they’re great. But when we argue, voices get loud, things go flying, and holes appear in walls because someone lost his cool and needed to strike something.
Catie, on the other hand, is far more relaxed. She has this “who cares” mentality. If you asked her to race, she’d shrug and say, “You win.” And then she’d go off to play with some dog because, “Puppy!”
She just has this chill personality, and her presence sooths him. He’s happy, I’m happy.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Four females in any household is bound to be messy at times.
Nah, it’s not that bad. It’s more like this:
But at the end of the day, it just works.
Hugs!
Lena
